I chose to next to by a fat person on a plane as a mini social justice protest

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I was just leaving the ASDAH (Association for Size Diversity and Health) Conference and feeling pretty empowered. I had spoken about the injustice of weight stigma in health care. The inspiring conference goers helped me to recognize that more needed to be done. I started with my flight home. I was on the ‘pick your own seat’ airline which openly provides the opportunity to shame or stigmatize people based on their appearance. I was in one of the later boarding groups and you could see people slowly moving down the aisle weighing their options for the dreaded middle seat. Baby, old person, black sisters, which was the lesser of the evils to sit between for the 2 hr ride home?  In the midst of this uncomfortable social exercise, I spotted an uncomfortable participant. A young fat male was sitting in the aisle seat of 2 exit rows seats sweating and full of shame. He could feel the cold glares as people looked at him and how he spilled into the seat to his left. The frustration was palpable. How dare he take up two seats?! This was a full flight and someone was going to have to share that space with him. This was my opportunity. I just left a conference professing my love for people of all sizes. Now was my opportunity to show it. I didn’t want him to wait until the seat next to him was the last seat and an angry  passenger made him feel even worse about the space he was takin up on this earth. I decided to voluntarily occupy that seat. I didn’t mind if his thigh touched mine or the arm rest could not be lowered. Wasn’t this a change to show some human kindness and compassion?  I initially felt the tension in his body as he attempted to remain rigid and keep within the socially accepted norms of his existence. I quietly asked, “Are you comfortable?’. I was trying to provide an opportunity for him to adjust himself without feeling shame or judgment.  He took the cue and made efforts to re-position his body. As the flight prepared to take off, I sent telepathic messages through my right thigh that I didn’t mind that his was touching mine. This area was for us to share. As we ascended into the air, I could feel his tension dissipate. I could tell that he had mentally prepared himself for a long shame-filled journey and now that the dirty work of seat selection had passed, he could relax. The protest was small but impactful. I was able to witness the fear in his eyes as he prepared for the shame and judgement he had undoubtedly encountered before. that arise from inhibition spaces that were not designed for you and how one act of kindness can change fear into freedom. I challenge you to see life through the lens of someone who is not routinely welcomed in a space that you are inhabiting. Do we need to change culture so that airplanes are accessible to all? Absolutely! However, in the interim, ask yourself what ways you can help those voices that may fade into the background be seen and heard. Social justice protests don’t have to be large rallies on a national stage. We can start with mini protests against injustice in our day to day lives.


No Spanx You!


I recently had a great positive body image lesson. The holidays were filled with social gatherings and wearing lots of fancy clothes. I live for this stuff! For me, this has historically included ‘smoothing things out’ with a firm foundation garment. Spanx have been my foundation garment of choice for years. However, I recently made the radical decision to ‘be free’. I had a party to go to and I really wanted to enjoy myself without worrying about looking perfect. So, I went to my first event without my Spanx security. Initially, I was nervous and concerned about how things would turn out. To my surprise, it was FANTASTIC!!  I danced, ate, laughed and enjoyed myself thoroughly. I didn’t have to adjust myself once and I went to the bathroom in record time. No one seemed to notice my lumpy, bumpy profile. The most important lesson was that I focused my energy on the experience and not making sure every fold and roll I naturally have was tucked neatly into place. I will likely wear Spanx again at some point in my life. However, it was exciting to realize that they are not a vital component to looking beautiful and having a great time doing it.  In 2018 I am going to unapologetically do what feels good and enjoy every moment of it. Clearly, I’m not alone in my radical Spanx break up.  Check out this great article by Jordan Baker Watts:    Thanks,But no Spanx

#liberationcenter #findyourfreedom #beyoutiful #healthateverysize #bodypositive #livefreelivehappy

Eating Disorders and GI Issues


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Regardless of the diagnosis, those struggling with eating disorders typically experience multiple gastrointestinal (GI) symptoms. I have treated thousands of ED patients with varying GI complaints. They experience everything from pain, bloating, nausea, gas and constipation to diarrhea. This can be a very frustrating experience when you are trying to navigate the recovery process. My patient tell me that they feel as though they can’t trust their bodies and they don’t know what to eat because so many things seem to make them feel uncomfortable. To make matters worse, people  dismiss their pain and tell them, “It is just your eating disorder talking”.  Despite their best efforts to eat normally, their stomach continues to hurt and they feel frustrated and confused. They asked themselves, “Wasn’t all the hard work work of recovery supposed to make me feel better, not worse?”.
If this scenario sounds familiar to you, don’t be discouraged, you are not alone and there is help available. You must first come to terms with one of the harsh realities of recovery: it can take a while for your body to return to normal GI functioning. This can be a physically and emotionally uncomfortable process that makes you vulnerable to returning back to your prior eating habits. Be strong.  With the right help and guidance you can get through this and enjoy all of the wonderful advantages of recovery without painful GI symptoms.
Here are some strategies to help you maintain your ED recovery despite GI issues:
1.  Follow meal plan— When you have stomach discomfort, it is natural to want to avoid the pain by decreasing your food intake.  This is dangerous when you are in ED recovery! Trust the wisdom of your dietitian and try not to problem solve on your own.  Oftentimes, the changes in how are bodies process and absorb food are caused by your disordered eating patterns. Restricting your intake can make things worse. Confer with your RD and medical doctor and see their assistance prior to making changes. They ca help make adjustments to your meal plan as necessary that support minimizing GI discomfort and maintaining your ED recovery progress.
2. Restore weight— The body does a lot to compensate when you are malnourished. One of the things it does is to slow down how quickly food moves through the GI system. This is done in an effort to improve the absorption of essential nutrients. Once you have achieved an appropriate nutrition level and the body feels that it is getting enough of the vital nutrients that it needs, it will begin to move food through more efficiently. If you keep your caloric intake and/or body weight low it will slow down the healing process.
3. Avoid expensive invasive tests, when possible— I have countless patients that come to see me AFTER they have undergone extensive and invasive tests and procedures that have only made them feel worse and didn’t reveal any helpful information. Having experience working with patients with eating disorders and GI issues is helpful in avoiding these unnecessary interventions. Time, patience and partnership are the best tools when navigating this process.  Once I can explain to them what is happening with their bodies and what they can do to support the healing process, they are less inclined to undergo extensive testing. We will occasionally  add the conservative use of medications to decrease their symptoms and make the process more bearable.
4. Understand that not all abdominal pain is due to constipation— A common misconception among those in ED recovery is that if their stomach hurts, they are constipated. This is not always the case. There are numerous causes for GI discomfort other than constipation and they all can feel the same. However, the treatments are very different. Medications such as probiotics, digestive enzymes, motility stimulators, proton pump inhibitors and anti-nausea medications may be best suited to treat your specific issue.  If we treat all GI discomfort as constipation we may be doing more harm than good.
5. Seek the guidance of your Eating Disorder treatment team —  Because of the overlap between ED and GI symptoms, it is important that you seek guidance from professionals who understand eating disorders and the strong connection between the brain and the gut. Having physical pain and emotional distress can make it difficult to determine if everything you are feeling has an organic source or if there is a psychological component to what you are experiencing. Regardless of the origin, your pain is real and you need experienced help navigating it so that you don’t fall back into the old ED behaviors that you have fought so hard to overcome.
6. Set realistic expectations — Your eating disorder didn’t happen overnight and all of the GI symptoms associated with it will take time to resolve.  The GI system is unfortunately one of the last systems of your body to get back to normal during ED recovery.  Be patient with your body, work with experienced eating disorder professionals and heed the counsel of your knowledgable dietitian. Together, you can formulate small incremental goals that support your ED recovery as well as minimize your GI symptoms.
GI symptoms during ED recovery are real and with help, you can overcome them!

Do I Just Love to Eat, or Do I Have a Binge Eating Disorder?

By Dr. Lesley Williams, MD, CEDS – CEO & Co-Founder of Liberation Center

As an Eating Disorder Specialist, I am frequently asked, “Do I just love to eat, or do I have a Binge Eating Disorder (BED)?” When assessing patients during the intake process, it’s not uncommon for me to hear, “My only disorder is that I love to eat.” Many assume that Anorexia and Bulimia are the only eating disorders that require treatment, completely unaware to the fact that BED is actually the most common eating disorder, yet remains the least talked about and recognized.

Food has always been my friend. I have been known to numb the pain of heartbreak with ice cream and cope with life stressors with french fries and wine. Like most people, emotional food indulgences bring me joy and comfort. However, it can be difficult to distinguish between overeating and a true Binge Eating Disorder.

Individuals suffering with Binge Eating Disorder cannot enjoy the occasional dessert after dinner or stop at one helping during the holidays. BED is a distinct neurobiological disorder that has been described to me by my patients as a constant pervasive preoccupation with food. The DSM 5 book of psychiatric diagnoses defines BED as:

Recurring episodes of eating significantly more food in a short period of time than most people would eat under similar circumstances, with episodes marked by feelings of lack of control. Someone with binge eating disorder may eat too quickly, even when he or she is not hungry. The person may have feelings of guilt, embarrassment, or disgust and may binge eat alone to hide the behavior. This disorder is associated with marked distress and occurs, on average, at least once a week over three months. 

My patients that suffer with BED state that they think about food constantly and often eat beyond feeling full, even when they aren’t hungry. I treat women and men of varying weights and sizes, and this pattern is not exclusive to individuals in larger bodies. BED is not a disorder you can diagnose by just looking at someone. From my experience, those afflicted find their preoccupation with food and eating habits to have a significant impact on their ability to focus on daily tasks. However, many suffer in silence because they are afraid, embarrassed or hold the belief that change is merely a matter of “willpower” and they need to just “get over it.” Often, even those who are motivated to break free from the cycle of bingeing don’t know where to seek help. 

 The encouraging news is that BED is gaining recognition and support. Strong advocacy groups like the Binge Eating Disorder Association (BEDA) are speaking out about the prevalence and dangers of this illness and demanding that those who suffer are treated with dignity and respect. When I began my career as an Eating Disorder Specialist, my goal was to treat the binge eating disorder problem that I saw frequently in my community. Now, after more than 10 years, BED is finally being recognized and health insurance companies are seeing the value in treating it early. If you or someone you know is struggling, take the first step, set up an assessment and learn about the variety of treatment options available.

Stay tuned for Part 2 of Liberation Center’s Binge Eating Disorder blog series!